Sunday, May 29, 2005

I could *strangle* this girl....

The inevitable has happened: My son and his girlfriend have broken up. I found out by reading his blog (he knows I subscribe), and the whole thing was about what a jerk he is.

So I called him. I'm worried about him; he's out there in PA all by himself, now that Tootsie has broken off their relationship, and I was hoping to find out what had happened.

Are you ready for this?

When they were sharing a home (not "living together," since there was never anything sexual about their relationship), she complained that he "wasn't doing enough around the house." These were the days when he was working 70 hours a week as a bus driver, so fatigued that one day he actually ran a red light; then, when he got his railroad job, he was commuting 90 minutes to work and 90 minutes back home. Not to mention all the snow-shovelling he did this past winter, which I know about because she wrote about it on *her* blog.

Now that he has his own place, she's upset because he Doesn't Communicate with her. So she writes him an e-mail to break off their relationship. This is communication?!?!

This is the same girl who got upset with me because I posted to the list that she had never had any men in her life, as far as living with one went.

This is the same girl who, get this, didn't want us to come and visit our son for his birthday because she was still so upset with me over the "awful things" I had posted to the OrthWomen's list.

This is the same girl who goes to bed at six in the morning, and gets up at two in the afternoon. No job, she Just Doesn't Sleep Well at Night.

And my son is walking around feeling like a jerk?!?!

It's taking all my self-control not to e-mail her and LET HER HAVE IT!!!!!


Philippa said...

Ahhhh...there's nothing more beautiful than a mother lioness who wants to rip the eyes out of the she-cub who took a swat at her man-cub's nose and drew blood! :-) Dear Meg, pull in the talons. Remember, this is his fight not yours. Pace the floor. Hit a pillow. Scream at the top of your lungs. Do not, I repeat, do not write the ex! Your son will strangle YOU! :-) Just be ready for when he calls...for he will.

Meg said...


But no, I have not said anything to her, or to him, for that matter. You're right, he would strangle me. Have just visited his blog, and while he hasn't written anything more, at least he has her photo off there. That's all right. She'll get hers. Time wounds all heels.

But I know that after this second bad experience with women, he'll never look for another girlfriend again.

Meg said...

Oh, did I mention that at Christmas, he walked TWELVE MILES to buy her a gift?? How much more "communication" do you want, for cryin' out loud?!?!?!?!?!?

Catrin said...

Breathe in, hold it, slowly exhale. Do this for as many times as it takes to prevent sending that email.

This was indeed his fight, and one way of looking at it is that this happened before something more serious happened... like marriage - and that is something to be thankful for.

Lola said...

I think he's better off without her. Hurtful as it is for him, better that it happened now than after they would have gotten married.

Q said...

Umm...that last paragraph in my Xanga entry? The one about not dissing her?

That included you.

And don't say I didn't warn you, because I'm not going to do it again.

Meg said...

Oh. Sorry. Didn't know you had access to this blog, q. Had to sound off *somewhere.*

"Tootsie" said...

What difference does it make if he has access to it or not? He specifically asked people not to do what you did, and you did it anyway. I'd think you would have enough respect for your son that you would honor his wishes.

I do have a job, even though you seem determined to tell the world that I'm an unemployed waif. I have been managing an online business since I was 17 years old, and I'm in photography school on top of that studying to become a professional photographer.

I also do not go to bed at 6 in the morning by choice. I have a documented sleep disorder that I have struggled with for years, and when things get stressful (as they were at the end of my relationship with your son), my sleep pattern suffers. I fail to see how this makes me a bad person.

I never prevented you from visiting your son for his birthday. Last time I checked, his birthday was June 22 -- how am I stopping you from seeing him?? You were going to come down for Pascha, but *you* were the one who called the trip off. If you wanted to come, it would have been fine with me.

I didn't break up with him simply because he did not help around the house or didn't communicate. There were other factors as well, which I explained to him. I will not go into them here, because I don't believe that I should trot out his personal business for the entire world to see, especially at such a painful time for him. I didn't do this lightly -- I do genuinely care for your son, and did not want to hurt him.

Your behavior towards me in the last few months has been atrocious, and that was a large factor in the demise of my relationship with your son. What you did to me on OrthWomen *was* awful. I joined the list and found post after post attacking my character -- mentioning me by name and by the name of my parish. That in itself was an invasion of my privacy. After reading what you've written here, it has only shown me that my decision not to marry into your family was the right one to make, if this is how you're going to treat people. If you'll notice, I have *never* posted a disparaging word about you on my blog.

If you would like to e-mail me, you can feel free to do so, but just know that it will be deleted unopened. If you feel the need to blast me further here, go ahead. I won't be reading.